Most websites are comprised of divorced people, who turn out to be "serial daters," although they profess to be interested in a long-term relationship.
I joined two websites, supposedly for widows and widowers. (no profiles about the men, difficult to maneuver, hardly any photos, etc.) Most widowed people had long, happy marriages and would like to meet like-minded people, who want the same, again.
I think one of the biggest questions that comes up regarding dating after your partner dies is about timing. Did you worry that you were interested in dating “too soon” or did you feel other people might be thinking that? I constantly doubted myself when I realized I was considering dating after two years. It felt like I wasn’t honoring my husband by dating again so quickly, yet I knew people who had done it much sooner.
It was hard to know what “the norm” was, or what was considered appropriate by society. I finally realized that I had only myself to judge what felt right, so really the question was: “Am I ready? I knew I was interested in experiencing intimacy again with another person. Most single people in their thirties and forties tend to be divorced or have never been married.
You may not have been out on a first date for many years.
The slightest emotional rejection could plunge you back into the depths of despair.
I have lost two husbands and recently lost my fiancé, who I met online.
Why hasn't anyone developed a quality dating website specifically for widows and widowers?
It's not easy to lose a loved one and you can never replace that person, but it can ease some of the pain when you can share your life again with a new friend.
I have met some nice widowers, there, but they are few and far between. If there were a site for only widows and widowers, like there are for other specific categories, there would be a larger data base.
My Answer: Hi, Sorry, I have no real suggestions for you (besides Senior People which you already tried), for a widow/widower specific dating service.
Some WAY members make the conscious decision that they will never date anyone else again, because they feel that nobody could ever live up to the partner they have lost.
Other WAY members feel ready to move on quite quickly – and are open to the possibility of finding love and a new partner. And only you will know when or if you feel ready to move on. Dating after you've been widowed can be fraught with perils, particularly in the early months of bereavement, when you may still be feeling very emotionally raw.